To make a change…

What do you do?

Stay where you are?

"He who has the goals, makes the rules." - Tyler Perry...something to focus on...

Wow. Today has definitely picked my brain. I have so many thoughts right now and I’m not sure where to start. I’m thinking of several different things right now:

>Weight

>Career

>Helping society

>Passing on a legacy

Looking at the list, I can’t help but wonder how the hell did I go between all these topics? That’s just a normal day inside my head. I’m always swirling with ideas, solutions and new paths to walk down. Let me tackle the first one.

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: I’m over my weight issues. It should be a NON issue. I have worked my butt off in so many parts of life. Finishing high school, getting my two-year degree, graduating with my BS from GSU. No one ASKED me to do those things, they weren’t even required by anyone, but I just felt as if I needed to do those things to become a productive member of society. In my ongoing struggle to become a more complete WHOLE person, I have to take the same fervor that I applied to all those years of schooling and apply them to my weight loss. I’m tired of complaining about it, I’m tired of feeling this way. I just simply have to shut up and do it. I feel like in the back of my mind I’ve been waiting for some easy answer to make me be skinny while enjoying the gross foods that I love. When it comes down to it, I just have to change. End of story. Learn to like foods that I don’t normally like. It has to change or I will die. Not being melodramatic or anything…

My career. This has caused me much confusion in the past two years. I made my goal and I reached it…well sort of….I work in radio full-time, I do a morning show, which has been my dream, now what? Do I continue to work up this ladder until something big happens or do I go for something bigger? Now here’s where the other two points come into play. A huge piece of my heart lightens up when I’m able to give to people who don’t have… I know that I want to give back and serve some how. So how do I do both – radio and serve? What do I focus on? And here we are…a cross roads…I’ve had a road map my entire life of where I was going. Has that ultimate goal changed? Is the route I’m going to take different?

Something that really stuck me tonight was Black In America on CNN. They focused on this program called MLT. They take young minorities and give them leadership skills to go on and get their MBA and work at Fortune 500 companies or open up their own place of business. It has my gears thinking…what do I want to do? How do I want to do it? So many questions. I think it’s time to pull out the road map and do some assessing.

This really went no where. I just needed to get some stuff out of my head. Will organize later.

I got an e-mail from a listener today that just didn't sit right with me. For a person who talks on the radio for four hours a day, you are going to offend someone...at least once a day. But this just hurt my feelings because I don't want anyone to think this about me. Here's the actual segment that played on the radio Thursday, July 3rd....

Listen to the segment here: http://www.zshare.net/audio/62152184a0c09722/

Here's the e-mail I got from K.T. after the show

So Miguel i just heard your rendition of one of our countries patriotic songs. First off you were never in chains, second your own people sold your ancestors. If you have a problem with this country THEN LEAVE! I'm a operation enduring freeedom Veteran who seen some of my best friends Killed overseas fighting for this country we LOVE. I always liked you as a radio personality before today, i've seen you out and about many times but when you start making fun of something i put my life on the line for and would DIE FOR we have a huge problem. If you continue to bad mouth my country and degrade her patriotic songs i'll break your neck myself! I'm not joking one bit! Think about this for one second we all know what you look like because of your job, you have no idea what i look like or any of my brothers i serve with. PLEASE watch your mouth when it comes to this country. what happened back then is tragic but i wasn't alive then neither was my father or his father. If you want to complain about it then do it some other way not by bad mouthing our country please. I lost all respect for you today and i hope next time i see you out at a club i can bite my tongue and supress my temper. Have a wonderful damn Day. Oh yeah ,Happy Independence Day!

----K.T. didn't provide a valid e-mail address so that's why I'm addressing this on my blog. Here's the e-mail I drafted to K.T...ps. If you are reading this, I would love to chat with you about this K.T.! E-mail me back.

Okkkaayyy…this is a whole lot to take in. I’m hurt that you would think that about me…I LOVE this country. K.T., from your e-mail I would assume that you are a frequent listener…you know that we poke fun at EVERYTHING. We are there to laugh and make fun of each other and everything else. But let me just clear the air a little bit...

1. You make a great point, I was never in chains. I understand this. But if you listen to the clip, I was poking fun at the fact that I don’t know the lyrics. Everyone in the studio started singing to the song – we all were having fun with the song...

2. I was in NO WAY making fun of you or your friends who have fought so bravely for this county. In no way would I EVER make fun of the military. I spent an entire week with the Marines out at Parris Island this winter! I have HUGE amounts of respect for people who go out of their way to sacrifice their life for this great country and the rights that we were ALL granted...

3. Now, I understand that you are upset for the misunderstanding of what you thought I meant, but don’t make threats. You know I’m all about love and peace! I just want everyone to sit around, share a vodka cranberry and joke about life!

4. If I ever talk about slavery on the show, it’s never about bad-mouthing this country. Slavery happened. Whether we want to talk about that or not. It happened. Having discussions on the show about slavery and me giving my VIEWPOINTS about the repercussions of slavery are not meant to slight you or our founders or anyone. It’s just a discussion...

5. Please don’t ask me to leave the country. That’s hurtful and shouldn’t even be part of the argument you are making...

Okay. I hope from the response you can see that what you heard on the radio was in no way making fun of this country...

On July 4^th I’ll be in Panama City waving my American flag like the AMERICAN that I am. If it weren’t for this great country, I would NOT have the job I have. I am grateful for this wonderful country and the ability to wake up every morning and speak my mind on different topics...

If you do see me in public, let’s talk! I love having discussions!! And I hope you know I mean that with sincerity...

Have a wonderful 4^th of July!

Miguel Fuller